Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Is it possible to do more than just put up with each other – coexist? Jesus is the one that said the way you know whether you love God or not is by how you treat your neighbor. I will be the first to admit that Christians can be a rather difficult group of people to be around because they don’t want to coexist with anyone but other Christians for the most part. Much as other religious faiths or nonfaith groups might purport to practice inclusiveness but in reality are just as partial or committed to their personal views – exclusiveness.

So how do we build bridges between different groups that want to maintain their homogeneity? I know that I can be viewed at times as being a naïve optimist that believes there is the potential for people to focus on what they share in common with others instead of always fighting over what makes us different. Is it possible for people of color to work with non-colored people? Is it possible for people of vastly different educational and socio-economic backgrounds to partner together? Is it realistic to believe that someone that is a liberal almost socialist type can actually befriend someone that is a conservative Christian that could be perceived as an extremist?  Is it possible to disagree on the hot issues of today, i.e. pro-life, pro-choice, LGBTQ community issues or economic reform and actually be friends that can carry on a civil conversation?

I volunteered and served on the board of a local Habitat for Humanity Affiliate for more than 8 years and discovered that it is possible for a rather diverse group of people to work together. The founder of Habitat, Millard Fuller, would say that the theology of the hammer was able to bring together people that typically would fight over the most ridiculous things. His salient point was that when we are actively engaged in doing something with our hands and minds that we tend not to allow our differences to come to the surface. This is why world relief organizations like World Vision or Food for the Hungry can draw their support and volunteer pool from a far-reaching population.

The real question which I face each day is whether I’m willing to make a friend with someone that is very different from me? Is it possible for an older ‘white’ guy, this is me, to befriend a bunch of African American grandmas? I will even go further and talk about whether a conservative Christian can purposely go out of his way to make friends with someone that is pro-choice or someone that is actively promoting the LGBTQ community. I want to believe that it is possible to do more than just coexist! Habitat and other nonprofits have taught me that we can choose to purposely work together for the common good and discover common causes.

My mom taught me so much about looking for the good in people instead of focusing on our differences that I could view as being evil in some contexts. I know that as a Christian I’m always pushed to see the gospel, God’s love, as being inclusive and never beyond touching even the person who is viewed as the most unworthy recipient. Yet, I have to be honest that someone like Christopher Hitchings could write his book, ‘God is not great and religion poisons everything’ and have ample proof that all religions have done harm while attempting to help.


My dream and hope is to show that it is possible for a Christian, a Jew, a Muslim, a Gay, an Atheist or liberal politician to work together to see a marginalized neighborhood turned around or to raise up funds when a horrific natural disaster happens. I also believe that we could become real friends and actually enjoy life together regardless of our differences or am I just being naïve and maybe coexisting is about as good as it gets?

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